Findagrave - Eva L. Allen

This weekend is Findagrave weekend. People all over the country will gather in cemeteries to photograph and document graves. Findagrave.com has been one of the most helpful resources in my genealogy research. Profiles are searchable by name and by cemetery. Sometimes the information in these profiles is extensive! One can submit a request to have a gravestone photographed and documented by someone local to a particular cemetery. I have posted a few profiles online myself.

The most amazing discovery on findagrave for me was the gravestone of my great grandmother, Eva L. Allen - a simple engraved brick. She was buried among hundreds in the hospital cemetery of a mental institution in Oklahoma. The gravestone was uncovered in 1998 as the cemetery was cleaned up. Until the moment I found her profile on findagrave, no one in the family had any clue what had become of Eva; her daughter died without ever knowing. It was certainly an emotional discovery. It also opened up other questions about her - why was she in a mental hospital? Why was she listed as "widow" when her husband was still alive?

I ponder these things every day without really getting anywhere. Last night, it occurred to me that I should contact the person who posted Eva's profile on findagrave. Turns out he is a really nice, helpful, genealogy-obsessed fellow! He got her information from a survey of the hospital cemetery and from census data. He was able to give me some perspective on the time that she lived. For instance, he said that often a woman who was divorced would list herself as a "widow" because of the shame. I had not thought of that but it makes perfect sense. He also told me that only the folks with no family to claim them were buried in that cemetery.

All of this fits with what I have learned about her life. My mind fills in the sad details as I try to imagine what might have happened:

Eva was married to Augustus Allen in 1886. Around 1893, after their only daughter Ethelyn was born, they left their families in Illinois and moved just across the river to Kiokuk, Iowa, where Augustus worked as a mercantile clerk. They moved to Wichita, Kansas in 1900, taking Eva's mother, Eliza Bosworth, with them. There was a huge real estate boom going on in Kansas at that time. Augustus emerged as an ambitious real estate businessman, and he became something of a celebrity. Seems like every move he made was written about in the Wichita newspapers.

Eva's brother, Richard Bosworth, and his wife and family also moved to Wichita around the same time. Unfortunately, their mother Eliza died shortly thereafter.  The two families got together socially; a 1903 Wichita newspaper describes a birthday party for Augustus where the Bosworths were present. My grandmother Ethelyn was ten years old at that time, so she must have been close to her four Bosworth cousins.

Something happened in 1903 or 1904.  Eva is listed in the 1904 Wichita City Directory as the "widow" of A. D. Allen. I don't know why I didn't think of this until now, but a divorce would be a logical explanation. This must have been around the time that my grandmother was sent to boarding school in Paris, Texas, almost 300 miles away. Eva would not have been able to support her daughter on her own. I don't know why her brother, Richard Bosworth, did not step in and help, but records indicate that he died before 1910 so perhaps he was ill. Augustus was a proud man - maybe he enjoyed being able to afford to send his daughter to boarding school.

The Old Fort Supply Mental Hospital opened in Woodward, Oklahoma in 1908. There are stories online about the wagon trains going to the hospital that year. Woodward was about a day's ride from Wichita...less than 150 miles. I am assuming that Eva was among the first patients there.  She is listed on the 1910 Census there as an inmate with status as "widow." She died in 1911.

My question now... where was Eva from 1904 to 1908? I wondered if she stayed with her brother, but she is not listed in his household in the 1905 Kansas census, and their addresses were not the same in the City Directory. What was her life like without husband and daughter? She must have been aware of Augustus' new marriage and his growing real estate business. I can't imagine how devastating a divorce and separation from her ten year old daughter must have been. The highly publicized birthday party that she gave for Augustus in March 1903 may have been a last, desperate attempt to please him..?

I have to say, I am less inclined to think of Augustus as a bad guy.  I guess divorce is easier to understand than lies and abandonment though there is very little emotional difference. It also explains why he was legally able to remarry in 1905. I wonder what made him send his daughter so far away - did he need to get her away from her mother for some reason? Augustus probably visited Ethelyn in 1910.  Newspapers tell of his trip to Texas, and my grandmother recalled this visit.  Why didn't he tell her about her mother? She was 17 years old and would have been able to understand by then. I guess there was shame all around... divorce, mental illness*... he did not want her to have that stigma.

So Eva died in 1911 - a "widow" with no family to claim her. Her mother and brother were dead. There was no contact with her extended family in Illinois. Augustus, her (ex)husband, had a new life. Her only daughter was unaware of her existence.

*UPDATE Sept. 25, 2021: I just found a photo on ancestry.com of Eva’s brother and his family. As I added the photo to each ancestry profile, other hints popped up, including the death certificates for two of his five children. I looked at the cause of death…both died of tuberculosis. I also observed that her brother and three of his children died within three years, from 1907 to 1910. I think I can assume, then, that all four family members died of tuberculosis. Since Eva was divorced by 1904, she probably remained close to her brother and his family in Wichita. It is not a far leap to assume that she died of tuberculosis as well.

Oh, dear Ida

Boy, my great grandmother Ida had some secrets! Some time ago, I was surprised to uncover her marriage license to William Butler where she was listed as Ida Rena Williams, a widow. Who was this Williams guy and why did she never mention him to her children? Was her son Earl actually the son of Williams since he was born three years before her marriage to Butler?

When I attended a genealogy event at the public library, I had a professional genealogist help me search for information about her marriage to Williams. They could not find anything more than I did. A librarian called me today and conducted a more indepth interview. She promised to keep searching.

Tonight, I decided to try searching Southhampton County marriage records online (didn't I do this before?) and there she was! An 1887 marriage license for Ida and a man named Lewellen P. Eley. What!??? No doubt this is our Ida... born in 1868 to parents Eley and Margaret Bryant.

Southhampton County Marriage Book 6, 1886-1890, p. 184

I am flabbergasted. No wonder I was having trouble finding her marriage record to Williams - her last name wasn't Bryant when she married him! Even my great grandfather, apparently now her 4th husband, did not know her complete history. This changes the angle of my research. Stay tuned!

Postscript: At a class at the public library on October 12, I learned how to discern information in the 1930 U. S. Census and got another surprise. The 1930 census tells the age at which each person was FIRST married. Ida was 1st married at age 16! So this marriage to Lewellen Eley must have been her SECOND marriage. That makes FIVE marriages! 

Branching Out

Until now, all of my research has been conducted from my home computer. It is incredible how far I have gotten with online resources, but I have been at an impasse for some time now. Time to branch out! (pun intended)

So, I signed up for some genealogy classes at the public library. The library's collection includes many great resources for ancestry research. They are currently offering classes and tours of their genealogy collection and have experts on hand to guide individuals in their research.  They have programs that I have never even heard of, such as Heritage Quest and WestLawNext. Now that I am retired, I can take full advantage of such resources.

Tonight is "Moonlight Madness," an after hours workshop from 7 - 11 p.m.  Today I will compile and organize my research since someone else may be looking at it and judging me!

Board Certification

On my retirement agenda: become a board certified genealogist.

I investigated the process. One has to develop a portfolio showing the research process for a particular genealogy problem (someone else's family, not mine). The portfolio has to include all sources, research logs, written analyses, and sound conclusions based on verified proof. All steps in the process must meet with the guidelines in the standards handbook. The portfolio is examined by a panel of judges, and either it passes or it doesn't. And all of this costs money! There are application fees and submission fees and re-submission fees if it doesn't pass the first time.

Right now, it strikes me as too much work! The process is not unlike the process to become a board certified teacher. That was a year-long project, equivalent to getting a masters degree. So much time, effort, and money. I am just not sure that's the direction I want my retirement to take. If I could work on a problem in my own family tree, it might be worth it.

If I ever decide to become a professional genealogist, I will revisit it, but in the meantime, I will continue to refine my skills on my own family tree.

Day trip to Gloucester and New Kent County

Warner Hall and St. Peters Church were the #1 destinations on my ancestry bucket list. My friend Laura also wanted to visit Gloucester and discover the places where her ancestors lived and were buried. So we decided to combine our visits and take a day trip together. It was a great day! The weather was beautiful, and though we only had time to hit the highlights of such a broad tour in one day, we accomplished a lot toward our research.

Laura's ancestors go deep into Virginia history. Her father's family, the Seawells, are a well-known name in Gloucester.  We found Seawell's Ordinary (or Seawell's Publick House), Seawell Ave, and the town of Ordinary. Her ancestors certainly mingled socially with my ancestors, the Warners, of nearby Warner Hall.  George Washington stopped by Seawell's Ordinary when he visited his grandparents at Warner Hall.

Seawells Ordinary - it is said that
Geo. Washington and Lafayette planned
their attack on Cornwall here in the tavern room.

Next stop was Abingdon Church Cemetery, where we met a delightful lady who helped us with tips and directions. This lady was talking with a tall, skinny fellow named Jimmy (who looked just like my friend Jimmy Harris) who told us proudly that he was a two-time pancreas cancer survivor. Such characters added so much color to our travels!

Laura's direct ancestors were buried in the beautiful and very old Abingdon Church Cemetery.

Abingdon Church

A singe butterfly appeared to guide us
everywhere we went.

I had also read that some of Laura's ancestors were buried at Ware Church Cemetery just down the road. The church was beautiful and old, just like Abingdon Church, but the Cemetery was much larger. We split up and walked around the cemetery looking at names until we lost sight of each other. I finally got in the car and drove around looking at names on gravestones from the car window. After about 45 minutes or so, we were about to give up. We decided to go into the rectory to ask for assistance. The young assistant rector was at work at his desk, but he stopped what he was doing to help us. He copy/pasted a list of the Seawells, and then add a map of the churchyard showing where they were buried. Then he joined us in our search!

At Ware Church Cemetery

Off to Warner Hall... miles of country road into the middle of nowhere. We finally came upon the white rail fence and entrance gate. It was just breathtaking and so grand! No one else in sight.

Entering the drive up to Warner Hall.

The Inn at Warner Hall.

A girl at the desk said that we could look around wherever we wanted. We explored some of the rooms inside the house, and then went out through the sunroom to the graveyard. There in this quiet, peaceful place were the graves of George Washington's grandparents and my ancestors - Augustine and Mildred Reade Warner, and John and Elizabeth Warner Lewis.

Standing at the foot of Augustine Warner's grave. He is George Washington's grandfather,
and also the ancestor of Queen Elizabeth of England. She calls Warner Hall her American home.

Next stop St. Peter's Church in New Kent County.  I was hoping to find graves of my Allen and Lewis ancestors, but had made no appointment for an official tour. At the very least, I wanted to see the church in a new light, since finding out that my ancestors are on the church registry there.  We did not find Allen or Lewis graves, but did find a memorial to the Bacon and Lydal families who were later connected with the Allens.

I am standing in front of St. Peters Church, New Kent County

"This stone witnesseth to the lives of good upright people identified with St. Peter's Parish for more than 125 years from its foundation in 1684. Col. George Lydal died 1705, Capt. Edmund Bacon and his wife Ann Lydal, John Bacon and his wife Susanna Parke, Samuel Bugg and his wife Sarah Bacon, Sherwood Bugg born July 8, 1720."

St. Peters Church is still an active place of worship; however, the feeling of history is rich. It is said that George and Martha Washington were married here.

St Peters was used as a camp during the Civil War.

We ended our journey by visiting with actual LIVING relatives! My Old Church cousins were mostly all home, along with dogs and horse and goat.

Cousin Barry and Bully

Interconnected

So excited to find yet another way that our family lines have criss-crossed... Uncle Herman's brother Basil Lukhard married Edith Powell whose father Harry was my Nannie Zaun's brother!


My paternal grandmother is Jacqueline Abbott

Jacqueline Abbott m. Ernest Earl Zaun

Ernest was the son of Georgia Powell

Georgia Powell had a brother Harry Powell

Jacqueline Abbott's sister was Miriam Abbott

Miriam Abbott m. Herman L. Lukhard

Herman had a brother named Basil

Basil Lukhard m. Edith Powell

Edith was the daughter of Harry Powell


I discovered this while on the phone with Teeny (Herman Lukhard's daughter)... there are so many more stories to glean from living members of the family! There will be a memorial table at the big family reunion in October and a family tree will be displayed.

UFO (Unidentified Family Origin)

Part of the lure of genealogy is getting caught up in the detective work, piecing together clues to create a story. I am greedy for information, old pictures, whatever I can get my hands on!

Last weekend I came across many old photos at Teeny's and took pictures of them with my phone. Some folks we were able to identify; but there were others, even whole families, that stumped us. Here are some of the mystery portraits:

This is an aunt Mollie (?) that Teeny used to believe was her claim to Native American blood.
It turned out that this relative never had children.

These are Lukhard great grandparents... I'm sure I have them on my tree, but don't know exactly which ancestors they are. Possibly Thomas and Mary Louise Bagby.

Unknown family

Very cool family but a total mystery.

I would have removed the cellophane but this portrait would have turned to dust.
No idea who this is, but believed to be a Lukhard.

I have no idea who looks at this blog but if by chance someone sees this who can help, please comment!